It does not cease to amaze me as our mind can betray us when we feel the pressure to achieve a very desired result.
It can happen when conducting a public presentation in which we want our message to reach the audience in a shocking way, by doing an exam where we play something important, or when we go to the job interview of our dreams. We often hear phrases like “I’ve been betrayed by nerves” or “I’ve gone blank.” What happened?
I want to share with you some reflections that could help you find the answer to this question.
Tim Gallwey, in his book “The Inner Stress Game”, speaks of the triangle “performance-learning-enjoyment”, referring to the elements that can influence when carrying out any human activity as it could be to work or play a game of tennis .
This author states that the three elements are important and that there is a need for a fair balance between them. If we only think of performance we may not be able to reach it paralyzed by the fear of failure. If we focus on learning and enjoying we will see how performance or result improves dramatically.
Rafael Nadal, in his book “Mi Historia”, narrates how in the 2008 Wimbledon final lost the fourth set of the game in the tiebreak, forcing to play a fifth set that finally gave him that historic victory:
“When I got out, winning 5-2, I had the impression of having the dream of my life at my fingertips. It was my downfall. ”
At that time the temptation to think of the result distracted him and the nerves betrayed him by losing 10-8 in the tiebreak of the fourth set.
Another approach related to the result is the one posed by Vicente Cuairan, tennis instructor specializing in mental training of competition players. Vicente argues that the results, or success in certain tennis matches, should not be the source of confidence for a player, but rather the certainty that in the face of certain gambling situations, the player will be able to find the best solution to act and solve it. Successfully. And this is trained giving of the right tools.
Rafael Nadal is a clear example in this regard. In the recent final of the Australian Open we saw how Nadal found a solution to Federer’s solid backhand by sending him sporadic blows to his right forcing numerous Swiss errors. Unfortunately Nadal could not take the victory but the match had to be resolved in five sets.
In my life, what importance do I give to the results?